There’s One Sex Act I Absolutely Will Not Do. It’s the One That’s Most Expected.

technology • 8/17/2025

I have good reasons, but it's still hard to talk about.

How to Do It is Slate’s sex advice column. Have a question? Send it to Stoya and Rich here. It’s anonymous! Dear How to Do It, I’m a 45-year-old gay man working through complex sexual trauma and am relatively new to sobriety. For the first time in ye... [11028 chars]